Being a teenager and in a relationship is one of the hardest possible things I find. Teenagers expect their first love to be the one that they spend the rest of their life with but that is not always true whilst you will need to continue a relationship and make it work whilst growing up together and experiencing new things. You will need to be ready for these things to happen and be ready to accept them because if you don’t then problems will inevitably occur.
Differences as you grow together do not have to push you apart but it is important for you to ensure that you accept their choices in life instead of pressuring them to make a different choice for the sake of the relationship. A relationship where you have to pretend to be someone you’re not or a relationship where you have to change your life goals just to suit the other party is a relationship that you should not be in. If your partner has chosen a path in life you haven’t, be supportive, work with and grow with them instead of against them but do not force yourself to change to suit them. It works both ways.
Growing up in love brings new challenges, fun and excitement but too many people get caught up in the rush of it all and throw away things they have been working towards. I’ve seen people leave school, move away or just flat-out change their lives just to be with someone but I believe that every person has their own personal goals and that they should strive to complete them no matter what the circumstances stopping them are. My girlfriend didn’t stop me from furthering my education and I am gearing up to go to University next year and she accepts that and I accept her choice to follow a lifestyle of making craft products for online stores. You need to grow with your partner and not against them.
Relationships are hard work at the best of times, especially in the teenage years. Ensure you’re treated well and make sure you’re happy. If you’re not happy or you are being forced to change, this isn’t the relationship for you.
One thing I noticed when involved in teenage relationships in the past is that most people try to act too mature than what they actually are at that point, let me go more into depth about this. As a teenager myself ,at the time, I would get into relationships an think it was an instantly long lasting, loving, deeply loving relationship and I would sometimes get a bit too ahead of myself for what the relationships should be at that time. Relationships as a teenager should be fun for both of you where they have a laugh and get on well. They won’t last forever most of the time and it is rare that you will end up with the person when you are old and grey. Therefore, relax, do not worry so much about the issues that could get in the way and just enjoy – do not go to serious!
From my poiny of view is a good thing that teenagers want to act like a mature person. The most of them are acting like silly kids 🙂
To a point yes, some teenagers really need to mature in some ways but in terms of relationships I sometimes feel people have a attachment too strong for the age… the chances are you will go through many more relationships after the teenage years.